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Why I Haven’t Posted In Almost a Month

Hello beautiful people!

Man, it’s been a minute since I’ve sat down and unloaded my thoughts on all of you. How are ya’ll doing? You good? I hope you’re doing good, in these covid streets.

So, where have I been you may or may not be wondering? Whew chile! I have been feeling so uninspired and unmotivated to write for the past couple of weeks, so much so that I took a conscious decision not to force it. I don’t know how many times I’ve sat in front of my laptop and tried to force myself to write, just for the sake of posting, and I really couldn’t bring myself to do it, especially because my heart and head weren’t in it.

That’s when I decided that I won’t force it, I’ll take however long I needed to, to get out of this funk I’ve been in lately. I also had to remind myself why I started this blog in the first place.

The purpose of this blog is for it to be a safe space,  to be my creative outlet, a place where I can get away from my daily life and responsibilities, and just be fully myself, uncensored, and most importantly, to HAVE FUN. I really didn’t start this to be a “content creator” or anything like that, I started this for fun, as an escape from everyday life.

So, when it started feeling like a second job, I had to step back, introspect and decide what direction I wanted this platform to take. I love writing with all my heart, so it really bummed me out when I started dreading it. You may or may not have noticed that I started out posting on a weekly basis, every Friday to be exact, and I put myself under immense pressure to have something to post about every week, and it had to be perfect, every single week (Capricorn, duh)!

I hated that feeling. It took away the fun aspect of writing, which honestly is the main reason I started this blog to begin with, so, your girl had to take a moment and just chill. It also didn’t help that during that time, some major life changing things were going down in my life (which I’ll address in a separate post, should I feel so inclined), and they took their toll on my mental wellness, so I really needed to be away for a minute.

So, what is the way forward, you may be wondering? Well, I have decided that I will post as and when the spirit moves me. I will post because I have something to share with you guys, or something to bitch about, or a new recipe that I think you guys will enjoy, basically, my posts will not be scheduled, they’ll happen when they happen.

Sometimes I might post twice in 1 week, other times once a month ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ. The point is, I have decided to stop putting unnecessary pressure on myself and just have fun with this blog as I initially intended, when I started.

Anyway, that’s all I have to say about that. I hope you are all doing well and that life is treating you amazingly and that you get regular EFTs, you deserve it.

Catch me up guys, what did I miss? Did you miss me? What’s new in your life? I wanna know.

Until next time, you awesome nerds.

xoxo, Refiloe ๐Ÿ˜˜

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  1. Seema

    Shoe friend I know what you mean, I am glad you are putting yourself first. Nna I am supposed to be off social media Mara my pop in last night has kept me on it.๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ no pressure, ke cheat day ya di socials Iโ€™ll go back in hibernation soon. Hopefully sooner๐Ÿ˜…keep well and take care skaddo๐Ÿ˜˜

    1. Refiloe

      ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ I know what you mean. A break now and then is really necessary friend. You’ve actually been doing really well with regards to staying off social media, I’m proud of you. โค

  2. Sative

    Hey girl, I am just glad that you’re now back in the creative space that you needed to be in and kudos on prioritising your mental and physical health. I enjoy your blogs- always engaging, always informing and a total pleasure to read.

    Loads of love ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ซ

    1. Refiloe

      Thank you so much. I’m happy that you enjoy my writing, and now that I’m in the right frame of mind, I’ll be bringing loads more. Thanks for reading. โค

  3. Motshedisi

    Oh gone! You just spoke to me. There’s no point in doing something which was intentionally meant to lift you up, either pressure. I’m learning the hard way to leave any NGO initiatives that make me feel otherwise because when I started with advocacy, the whole idea was for me to heal and help others to grow in the process.

    1. Refiloe

      Exactly, if it doesn’t light up your soul on fire, then it’s not worth your time. Thank you for reading ๐Ÿ˜˜

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