Why I Haven’t Posted In Almost a Month

Why I Haven’t Posted In Almost a Month

Hello beautiful people!

Man, it’s been a minute since I’ve sat down and unloaded my thoughts on all of you. How are ya’ll doing? You good? I hope you’re doing good, in these covid streets.

So, where have I been you may or may not be wondering? Whew chile! I have been feeling so uninspired and unmotivated to write for the past couple of weeks, so much so that I took a conscious decision not to force it. I don’t know how many times I’ve sat in front of my laptop and tried to force myself to write, just for the sake of posting, and I really couldn’t bring myself to do it, especially because my heart and head weren’t in it.

That’s when I decided that I won’t force it, I’ll take however long I needed to, to get out of this funk I’ve been in lately. I also had to remind myself why I started this blog in the first place.

The purpose of this blog is for it to be a safe space,  to be my creative outlet, a place where I can get away from my daily life and responsibilities, and just be fully myself, uncensored, and most importantly, to HAVE FUN. I really didn’t start this to be a “content creator” or anything like that, I started this for fun, as an escape from everyday life.

So, when it started feeling like a second job, I had to step back, introspect and decide what direction I wanted this platform to take. I love writing with all my heart, so it really bummed me out when I started dreading it. You may or may not have noticed that I started out posting on a weekly basis, every Friday to be exact, and I put myself under immense pressure to have something to post about every week, and it had to be perfect, every single week (Capricorn, duh)!

I hated that feeling. It took away the fun aspect of writing, which honestly is the main reason I started this blog to begin with, so, your girl had to take a moment and just chill. It also didn’t help that during that time, some major life changing things were going down in my life (which I’ll address in a separate post, should I feel so inclined), and they took their toll on my mental wellness, so I really needed to be away for a minute.

So, what is the way forward, you may be wondering? Well, I have decided that I will post as and when the spirit moves me. I will post because I have something to share with you guys, or something to bitch about, or a new recipe that I think you guys will enjoy, basically, my posts will not be scheduled, they’ll happen when they happen.

Sometimes I might post twice in 1 week, other times once a month 🤷‍♀️. The point is, I have decided to stop putting unnecessary pressure on myself and just have fun with this blog as I initially intended, when I started.

Anyway, that’s all I have to say about that. I hope you are all doing well and that life is treating you amazingly and that you get regular EFTs, you deserve it.

Catch me up guys, what did I miss? Did you miss me? What’s new in your life? I wanna know.

Until next time, you awesome nerds.

xoxo, Refiloe 😘

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Seema

    Shoe friend I know what you mean, I am glad you are putting yourself first. Nna I am supposed to be off social media Mara my pop in last night has kept me on it.🤣🤣🤣 no pressure, ke cheat day ya di socials I’ll go back in hibernation soon. Hopefully sooner😅keep well and take care skaddo😘

    1. Refiloe

      😂😂😂 I know what you mean. A break now and then is really necessary friend. You’ve actually been doing really well with regards to staying off social media, I’m proud of you. ❤

  2. Sative

    Hey girl, I am just glad that you’re now back in the creative space that you needed to be in and kudos on prioritising your mental and physical health. I enjoy your blogs- always engaging, always informing and a total pleasure to read.

    Loads of love 💞💫

    1. Refiloe

      Thank you so much. I’m happy that you enjoy my writing, and now that I’m in the right frame of mind, I’ll be bringing loads more. Thanks for reading. ❤

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